To begin to understand this story, you first have to understand deeply the idea of being told for 20 years told that no one would believe you. I’ve recently came across writing from 2012, 2011, where the primary focus was the many ways a person was poised to villainize a mother of two young children and thus render her unbelievable and insane – and a whore. I wrote this sitting at Red Light, Red Light.

The second thing you need to understand deeply is is the idea of being the most accommodating at home during those 20 years so you don’t get the full unrelenting force of human wrath (which will continue until you relent anyway) so that you could spend the most amount of time becoming a strong, deeply feeling, generally kind (but no longer to the point of being a doormat — ever), passionate-about-life and finally-free-45-year old. I love who she has become, and I all the other kind human beings who helped her along the way.